Betty Godson reveals how an undisclosed OCD diagnosis tore apart her marriage and shattered a long‑standing friendship.
Key Takeaways
- Isaac’s OCD was concealed until after the wedding, causing marital strain.
- Fade, the matchmaker, also knew about the condition but did not disclose it.
- Damilola’s family supported her decision to divorce, highlighting the importance of informed consent.
- The case illustrates how cultural pressures around perfect weddings can fuel secrecy.
- Future relationships for Damilola will prioritize openness about mental health.
How the Matchmaking Friendship Began
Damilola met Fade during their 2018 NYSC camp and quickly bonded over shared church values. After the camp, they kept in touch despite being posted to different local governments. When Damilola learned Fade was single, she offered to set her up with a friend, Isaac, who later became her husband.
Living with OCD: Daily Struggles
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The couple dated for about eighteen months without major red flags, except that Isaac never let Damilola inside his home. Their courtship seemed smooth until wedding preparations revealed odd rituals, such as Isaac insisting on reciting Psalm 91 twice before wearing his shoes. Post‑wedding, Isaac’s compulsions escalated: he repeatedly checked the gas stove, woke at night to verify burners were off, and demanded the house be spotless. These behaviors, later identified as obsessive‑compulsive disorder (OCD), caused sleepless nights and constant anxiety for Damilola.
Betrayal and the Breakup Decision
Six months into the marriage, Damilola confronted Isaac about his habits. He finally admitted his OCD, explaining he hid it for fear she would reject him. Feeling blindsided, Damilola turned to Fade for support, only to learn that Fade had known about Isaac’s condition all along. Fade claimed she withheld the information to protect Damilola, but the revelation felt like a betrayal. The trust between the two friends eroded, and Damilola withdrew from the friendship.
Family Reaction and Divorce
After the truth surfaced, Damilola’s family backed her decision to leave. She moved back to her parents’ home in 2022, and the divorce was finalized in March 2026. Isaac’s family offered little resistance, acknowledging the lack of disclosure before the wedding. The experience left Damilola wary of future relationships, prompting her to prioritize transparency and gradual discovery of a partner’s health conditions.
Lessons Learned for Future Relationships
Damilola now approaches dating with heightened caution, insisting on open conversations about mental health and personal habits before committing. She stresses that while no marriage is flawless, certain disclosures are essential for informed consent. Her story echoes broader conversations about mental‑health stigma in Nigerian society, where many still conceal diagnoses out of fear of rejection.
Cultural Context: Weddings and Disclosure
In Nigeria, weddings often spotlight perfection, as seen in the lavish celebrations of celebrities like Zlatan Ibile[^1]. Such public displays can pressure couples to hide imperfections, reinforcing the need for private honesty. Damilola’s ordeal underscores how cultural expectations may inadvertently encourage secrecy, especially around mental health.
[^1]: https://www.nadiagist247.com/2026/10/zlatan-ibiles-lavish-edo-wedding.html
Frequently Asked Questions
Why did Isaac hide his OCD from Damilola?
He feared that revealing his condition would jeopardize the marriage prospects.
Did Fade intentionally deceive Damilola?
Fade admitted she knew about Isaac’s OCD but chose not to tell Damilola, claiming she wanted to protect her.
What impact did the secret have on Damilola’s marriage?
The undisclosed OCD led to daily conflicts, loss of trust, and ultimately a divorce finalized in March 2026.
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